Dr. Ramani Durvasula defines narcissism as a collection of traits that center around an inflated sense of self-importance, a constant need for admiration, and a deep lack of empathy for others.However, Dr. Ramani also emphasizes the complexity of narcissism. She highlights that narcissists can be very charming and charismatic at first . It's the shift, where the manipulative and controlling behaviors emerge, that can be confusing.

What is Narcisism?

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Grandiosity: An inflated sense of self-importance, believing they are superior</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Entitlement: A sense of deserving special treatment and privileges</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Lack of empathy: Inability to understand the feelings of others</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Need for admiration: Constant craving for praise & validation.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Hypersensitivity to criticism: Reacting poorly to any feedback or disagreement</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Charismatic but manipulative: Initially charming, but controlling</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Prone to gaslighting: Deliberately manipulating situations to make their target question their own reality</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Projecting blame: Shifting responsibility to others</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Un-accountable</li></ul>

Signs of a Narcisist

Grandiose Narcissism: They have big dreams and appear larger than life. Successful, but also tend to hold grudges and view others as obstacles to their success.Vulnerable Narcissism: They see themselves as victims and struggle with feelings of inadequacy. A grandiose narcissist can become vulnerable if they do not get their way.Malignant Narcissism: The most severe type, it involves manipulative and isolating behavior. They may show some remorse, but it is the stepping stone towards psychopathy.Communal Narcissism: They are fixated on being seen as kind and charitable.

Different Types of Narcissism

How many narcissists are there in society?<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">The estimated percentage of observable narcissists is about 18%. Approximatively 1 in 6 people. </li><li class="ql-align-justify">Narcissism exists on a spectrum and can be observed in varying degrees in all individuals.</li></ul>Some professions tend to attract more narcissists, such as management or business, while others, like politics and social activism, are dominated by narcissists.

Narcissism in Society

Many successful individuals are narcissists. From politicians to business leaders, the qualities that make them successful often include a lack of empathy & a strong sense of self-importance. While this may lead to great accomplishments, their intelligence and charm can also make them terrible partners:<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Narcissists are often driven by their own self-interest, rather than the greater good.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">They may achieve great success, but it can come at a cost to those around them.</li></ul>As the saying goes, "You can appreciate a narcissist in charge of a company, just don't marry one!" 😜

Narcissism and Success

There is no numerical difference between men and women when it comes to being narcissists. But they are different in type.Men tend to be more grandiose, while women tend to be more vulnerable. They manifest differently, but they are equally damaging in a relationship.

Narcisism and Gender

No, narcissism is a psychological trait that cannot be created by technology. However, social media amplifies existing narcissism and turns a small-scale issue into a larger one. "Virtue signalling," for example, is a phenomenon fuelled mostly by communal narcissism.While most teenagers may appear narcissistic on social media, it is impossible to know for sure until they reach adulthood. The behavior of teenagers is not identical to that of narcissists.

Is Social Media Making Us Narcissists?

How to know you are one?Self aware narcissist are very rare. A true narcisist will have very little self awareness of the effect they have on other people. Most would see their narcisism as a super power. A commitment to a goal or an ideal.

Are you a narcisist?

Can you be happy being a relationship with a narcisist? Yes, but not from the relationship.

If you are trapped in a relationship with a narcisist the main practice is radical acceptance. You have to be aware of the trait of the other person and stop hoping you can change him or her.When the inevitable manipulations begin it's important to stop engaging. You can't productively argue with a narcisist. They will default to gaslighting:<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Denial: The narcissist will deny things they clearly said or did, twisting the situation</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Rewriting history: Rewrite past events to fit their narrative, making you doubt your own memories.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Diminishing your feelings: Dismiss your emotions as "overreacting"</li></ul>

Dealing with a narcisist

Narcisism is a one the main negative psychological traits. It's impirtant to be aware of it. 

1 in 6 people are narcissists, so what is a narcissist and how can you spot one?Dr Ramani Durvasula is a clinical psychologist, Professor of Psychology at California State University, and the Founder and CEO of LUNA Education, Training & Consulting. She is also the author of books such as ‘Should I Stay or Should I Go: Surviving a Relationship with a Narcissist’, and ‘"Don't You Know Who I Am?": How to Stay Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement, and Incivility’.In this conversation Dr. Ramani and Steven discuss topics such as, whether your partner is a narcissist, the 4 types of narcissist, why up to 50% of famous people are narcissists, and whether narcissists are better in bed.(00:00) Intro(02:08) Why Dedicating Your Life To Studying Narcissism(03:10) The Cost Of Narcissism(06:07) How To Spot A Narcissist(12:27) How To Differentiate An Asshole From A Narcissist(15:19) Can You Cure Narcissism?(16:39) What Gender Tends To Be More Narcissistic(18:24) The Types Of Narcissism(25:07) How Many People Are Narcissists?(27:21) Is Social Media Fuelling More Narcissists(32:09) Where Does Narcissism Come From Genetics Environment(36:06) Narcissism Lives In A Spectrum(37:08) Are Narcissists More Successful(40:12) The Empathic CEOs Are Rare(43:04) Does Money Make You More Narcissistic?(47:03) How Do You Know If You Are A Narcissist(50:19) What People Get Attracted To Narcissist?(53:41) How To Know If My Partner Is A Narcissist(55:32) The Three Rs: How To Know If You're In A Negative Relationship(59:28) Pathological Manipulation(01:00:56) What's Projection?(01:04:20) Can They Take Feedback(01:05:55) Gaslighting, What Is It?(01:10:49) How To Deal With Being Gaslit(01:13:10) Do Narcissists Engage In Domestic Behaviour(01:15:17) What Should I Do If My Boss Is A Narcissist(01:17:31) Can You Get Out From A Narcissistic Person(01:21:32) Can You Be Happy In A Relationship With A Narcissist(01:23:08) What Is The Weak Point Of A Narcissist(01:24:44) Why Don't They Like Authentic People(01:25:51) Famous Narcissists(01:31:55) You Can Come Back From Narcissistic Abuse(01:34:04) Hardest Day Of Your LifeYou can order Dr Ramani’s most recent book, ‘It's Not You: How to Identify and Heal from NARCISSISTIC People’, here: https://amzn.to/42YI79KFollow Dr RamaniTwitter - https://bit.ly/3wF91raInstagram - https://bit.ly/48A634KWatch the episodes on Youtube - https://g2ul0.app.link/3kxINCANKsbFollow me:https://beacons.ai/diaryofaceoSponsors: Eightsleep: https://www.eightsleep.com/uk/steven/Uber: https://p.uber.com/creditstermsLinkedin Ads: https://www.linkedin.com/doac24 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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About Narcissism with Dr. Ramani Durvasula

Communication is about creating a safe space to connect.When you start your conversation wbu sharing vulnerability, you signal this is a safe space.

Start With Vulnerability

NEW YORK TIMES BESTESLLER • From the author of The Power of Habit, a fascinating exploration of what makes conversations work—and how we can all learn to be supercommunicators at work and in life “A winning combination of stories, studies, and guidance that might well transform the worst communicators you know into some of the best.”—Adam Grant, author of Think Again and Hidden Potential Come inside a jury room as one juror leads a starkly divided room to consensus. Join a young CIA officer as he recruits a reluctant foreign agent. And sit with an accomplished surgeon as he tries, and fails, to convince yet another cancer patient to opt for the less risky course of treatment. In Supercommunicators, Charles Duhigg blends deep research and his trademark storytelling skills to show how we can all learn to identify and leverage the hidden layers that lurk beneath every conversation. Communication is a superpower and the best communicators understand that whenever we speak, we’re actually participating in one of three conversations: practical (What’s this really about?), emotional (How do we feel?), and social (Who are we?). If you don’t know what kind of conversation you’re having, you’re unlikely to connect.  Supercommunicators know the importance of recognizing—and then matching—each kind of conversation, and how to hear the complex emotions, subtle negotiations, and deeply held beliefs that color so much of what we say and how we listen. Our experiences, our values, our emotional lives—and how we see ourselves, and others—shape every discussion, from who will pick up the kids to how we want to be treated at work. In this book, you will learn why some people are able to make themselves heard, and to hear others, so clearly. With his storytelling that takes us from the writers’ room of The Big Bang Theory to the couches of leading marriage counselors, Duhigg shows readers how to recognize these three conversations—and teaches us the tips and skills we need to navigate them more successfully. In the end, he delivers a simple but powerful lesson: With the right tools, we can connect with anyone.

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Balance is often considered the key to a healthy and fulfilling life. It involves maintaining equilibrium in various aspects, and while it has numerous positive aspects, there are potential negatives as well.

<ol><li>Mental Well-being</li><li>Physical Health</li><li>Productivity</li><li>Relationships</li><li>Adaptability</li></ol>

Importance of Balance

Balance promotes mental well-being by preventing burnout, stress, and exhaustion. It allows for moments of relaxation and rejuvenation.

1. Mental Well-being

Striking a balance between work, rest, and exercise contributes to physical health. Avoiding extremes helps prevent health issues associated with overworking or neglecting self-care.

2. Physical Health

A balanced approach to work and life enhances productivity. Taking breaks and managing time effectively prevents fatigue and improves overall efficiency.

3. Productivity

Balance in relationships involves giving and receiving support, maintaining boundaries, and ensuring that personal and shared goals are considered.

4. Relationships

A balanced mindset fosters adaptability. It allows individuals to navigate changes and challenges more effectively, as they are not rigidly attached to a single way of doing things.

5. Adaptability

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Let me weave a more captivating tapestry of words for you:Amidst the delicate cascade of tears, each drop carries profound significance.In the tapestry of spiritual beliefs, the right eye’s tears unfurl as emissaries of outward expression and purpose, while those from the left eye whisper secrets of inner emotions and intuition.These glistening messengers, spanning centuries, bear witness to the human soul’s intricate dance.

👋🏻Introductory! The potential spiritual messages behind tears

Emotional Release & Healing: Explore how tears might facilitate emotional cleansing and spiritual growth.Intuition & Inner Wisdom: Discover how tears from the right or left eye can be linked to intuition and self-understanding.Spiritual Traditions: Learn about interpretations of tears in various spiritual and cultural contexts.

🗝️Key Takeaways

Right Eye: Traditionally linked to happiness or joy. Some cultures consider it a sign of good fortune but in spirituality, it can symbolize an awakening, an insight, or a positive change.Left Eye: Often associated with pain, sadness, or grief. However, in spiritual terms, it may signify a release of negative emotions, a process of healing, or the beginning of a transformative journey.Both Eye: When both eyes produce tears, it often represents intense emotional responses. Spiritually, it could signify a profound personal transformation, realization, or a strong connection to one’s emotions.

💦Tear Origin with its Spiritual Meaning.

“Tears are God’s gift to us. Our holy water. They heal us as they flow.”

Tears speak a universal language, but their spiritual meaning is deeply personal.Across spiritual traditions, tears are seen as more than simple sadness – they hold power and symbolism.<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Cleansing & Release</li></ul>Imagine tears as a spiritual cleanse, washing away emotional burdens and negativity. Crying can be a release valve for pent-up feelings, bringing a sense of peace and renewal.

💧Understanding the Spiritual Significance & Symbolism of Tears

“Cry. Forgive. Learn. Move on. Let your tears water the seeds of your future happiness.”

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Connection to the Divine</li></ul>In many mystical paths, tears are seen as a manifestation of divine energy.The act of crying can be a profoundly spiritual experience, signifying a connection to something greater than oneself.<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">The Power of Healing</li></ul>Tears are not a sign of weakness, but a potent tool for healing. Crying allows us to face our emotional wounds, sparking transformation and spiritual growth.Remember: The meaning of tears is nuanced. Whether they flow from the right or left eye can carry additional symbolic weight, which we’ll explore next.

✨Understanding the Spiritual Significance & Symbolism of Tears

“There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love.”

The right side of the body is often associated with action, outward expression, and solar energy. Right eye tears can reflect these qualities within a spiritual context.<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Joy & Positive Change</li></ul>In many traditions, right eye tears are a sign of profound joy, happiness, or a major life milestone. They affirm positive experiences and can symbolize good things to come.

🌦️The Spiritual Meaning of Tears from the Right Eye ( 1/2 )

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Spiritual Cleansing & Release</li></ul>Crying from the right eye can signify the release of negativity, whether it’s harmful thoughts, emotions, or lingering spiritual burdens. Think of it as a way to clear space for positive growth.<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Foresight & Future Events</li></ul>Some beliefs connect the right eye to the future. Tears from this eye might suggest upcoming changes, good fortune, or a shift in your external world.Important Note: Context matters! The circumstances surrounding your tears, as well as your personal beliefs, will shape the most accurate interpretation.

☃️The Spiritual Meaning of Tears from the Right Eye ( 2/2 )

“The soul would have no rainbow if the eyes had no tears.”

The left side holds ties to intuition, the moon, and the inner world. Tears from your left eye reflect this, often expressing deeply personal experiences.<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Emotional Release & Healing</li></ul>Left eye tears are frequently associated with sadness, but this isn’t always negative. Crying can be a powerful way to release pent-up emotions, process grief, and begin the healing journey.

🌟The Spiritual Meaning of Tears from the Left Eye ( 1/2 )

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Introspection & Inner Growth</li></ul>Some traditions link the left eye to our inner world. Tears from this eye can signal a period of self-reflection, prompting personal realizations and spiritual growth.<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Memories & Past Experiences</li></ul>In certain spiritual beliefs, the left eye holds connections to the past. Tears might signify the release of old emotional wounds or traumas, promoting healing and closure.Remember: The meaning of tears is deeply personal. Your own experiences and beliefs are essential when interpreting their significance.(to be continued )

🔗The Spiritual Meaning of Tears from the Left Eye ( 2/2 )

"There’s something amazing about this life. The very same worldly attribute that causes us pain is also what gives us relief: Nothing here lasts. What does that mean? It means that the breathtakingly beautiful rose in my vase will wither tomorrow. It means that my youth will neglect me.( to be continued )

( 2/2 ) "But it also means that the sadness I feel today will change tomorrow. My pain will die. My laughter won’t last forever but neither will my tears. We say this life isn’t perfect. And it isn’t. It’s perfectly imperfect. It’s hard to keep your chin up when you feel so down. But try to remember that there’s a reason for the trials we face. Without rain, without change, without pain, we can’t grow.”

Its funny how each image is somebody crying but atleast you will understand the spritual significance of tears from each eye. Hope you enjoy these stashes !!

Discover the spiritual meaning of tears from the right eye and left eye in this insightful post. Uncover the hidden significance behind your emotional expressions.

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Important is the interaction between what I say and what happens inside you, intellectually and emotionally.It is analogue to art: Everyone has the right to interpret art the way they are able due to their past experiences.This also applies to my golden words...

Treat the following ideas like a super market. You don't have to buy everything that is offered.If you don't like something, leave it on the shelf and keep looking until you find something that interests you. <ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Explore different ideas to find what interests you</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Don't feel pressured to like everything</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Take time to find the right idea for you</li><li class="ql-align-justify">You can always come back and check out something else</li></ul>

Supermarket of Ideas

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">L - Life. Without cooperation, there is no life.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">I - Interaction. Love needs two interacting parties: the loving and the loved.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">E - Entwinement. Hate divides, love unites. When we connect with others, it is through some form of love: romance, friendship, respect, empathy.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">B - Bond. Love creates bonds with others.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">E - Energy. Love is the strongest force in the universe. When we hate, we blockade ourselves and others; energy cannot flow.</li></ul>

What is Love?

Quickly finish the following sentences:<ol><li class="ql-align-justify">Life would be better if ...</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Self-esteem mostly depends on ...</li><li class="ql-align-justify">I would have less problems if ...</li><li class="ql-align-justify">"But if anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also." What do you think about this?</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Love is ...</li><li class="ql-align-justify">I find inner peace ...</li></ol>Quickly answer the following questions:<ol><li class="ql-align-justify">What do you dislike about yourself?</li><li class="ql-align-justify">What do others dislike/criticize about you?</li><li class="ql-align-justify">What do you dislike in others?</li><li class="ql-align-justify">What do others like about you?</li><li class="ql-align-justify">What do you like in others?</li><li class="ql-align-justify">What do you like about yourself?</li><li class="ql-align-justify">What do you want? What is your life goal? Why?</li></ol>

Self-Inventory

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Negative affirmations tend to manifest.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Notice your own programs and come back into the Here and Now.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Look for your inner programs by reflecting and watching your reactions for 6 weeks: What do you find wrong, mean, impossible, etc.? Write it down.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Anti-Joy Program: You may laugh in public only if you are at least 2 people and everyone knows what you are laughing about.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Our upbringing "enchants" us.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Only the little EGO would wish bad upon others. The soul would never have any such notions. Thus, the motives are small-minded, e.g. envy, vindictiveness, vengence, greed.</li></ul>

Affirmations

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Each society has their own programs on how to behave. We learn these programs in childhood.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">As long as we are "enchanted", we are bound to play a role according to our learned programs. As long as we are scared to discard these rules, we will never be our true self.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Playing our role, we will always be the victim of our learned programs. Trying to do what everyone else expects of us, we will never be satisfied, judging others that have stopped playing by the rules.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">We can decide not to follow our learned programs.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">We can accept that others also have the choice to not follow their learned programs.</li></ul>

Learned Inner Programs

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">We are life. Life is ever evolving. We grow and change with our experiences. Today we cannot be who we were yesterday!</li><li class="ql-align-justify">If you could wish for anything, what would it be?</li><li class="ql-align-justify">How long do you want to be an object player?</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Positive affirmation: I am perfect!</li><li class="ql-align-justify">We are standardized by our upbringing and thus cannot live out our potential.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Stand by what you want!</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Every learned program limits us and hinders our energy to flow freely.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Contemplative meditation: Choose one thought and contemplate it from all sides while sitting or walking in a meditative state.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Gift yourself 15 minutes for daily meditation.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Be thankful.</li></ul>

We are not robots!

If you put positivity into the system, positivity will come back.If you put negativity into the system, negativity will come back.Everyone that crosses your path is either a friend or a teacher.Just as others are our mirror, we are the mirror for others.What we believe comes true. => Placebo, NoceboIf you don't love yourself, this notion will reflect to the outside and others will not love you either. It's the resonance you are susceptible for.The path to our higher self can only be found if we quiet the small ego.The fixed star - our life goal - nourishes the soul.

Law of Resonance

Let's give ourself the freedom to react in the here and now how we are currently able to react. If we notice later that we don't like our reaction, we need to be thankful for discovering something we can improve upon. This is way better than to curse the past and spend the rest of the day with a guilty conscience. Who has anything to gain when you live in the past?

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">If you want to change the world, you have to change your reactions.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">The opposite of love is fear.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">You have to remove the light to create darkness.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Gratitude radiates energy.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">By having a higher fixed star you can create more depth in your life.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Freedom can be found where you currently are, here in the day to day life. Live in the here and now.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">You can always talk to others, no matter what happened. You just have to use the right words.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">The universe is full of riches.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Stress hormones poison the environment.</li></ul>

Love and Gratitude change the world

When someone criticises you, look them straight in the eyes and say: "That is very interesting. Can you tell me more?"Either you can gain some insights that can expand your horizons. Or the other one has nothing constructive to say.

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">The more you live in harmony with your true self, the more things will fall into place that you cannot force to happen. Unexpected chances will open up, advantageous opportunities will be revealed, you will meet the right people at the right time. => Resonance</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Don't fight your fears, but accept them. Admit them openly. No guilt, no embarrassment.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Be more altruistic for your own benefit. => Resonance</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Household with your energy.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Take time to contemplate and reflect.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Concentrate on the 98,9% of your life that are good, not the 1,1% that are suboptimal.</li></ul>

Accept yourself the way you are

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Only two things count: Love in the sense of unconditional love and knowledge in the sense of holistic knowledge about the greater connections.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">When we practice the "far view", we can reach a state of mind where we suddenly understand everything about certain things all at once.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Use love and knowledge as your fixed star to align your smaller goals to.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Acceptance instead of resistance: Accept and love your imperfections as long as your inner self is not ready to change. Your imperfections are not the problem, but your own resistance.</li></ul>

Love and Knowledge

Spend three minutes to write a letter to yourself.What would you like to do? What would you like to change? What would you like to occupy yourself with? What would you like to give attention to?Put the letter in an envelope and open it in four weeks time.What have you done with all those thoughts and wishes in the past four weeks?

Your personal life goal letter

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Negative formulations are own goals.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Object players are stuck on matter. Their development as human being and their relationships to others are thus limited.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Object goals should be aligned with your fixed star. Like this your actions are based on your inner self. Then you have a strong foundation that is still large and flexible.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">When you align your life to the higher things, everything else will follow on its own, because we enter certain energy flows and by resonance we achieve what we want.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">A road full of potholes takes more time to travel. Fix the potholes before you travel.</li></ul>

Higher life goals bring peace of mind

<ol><li class="ql-align-justify">Clearly visualize the goal.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">The goal has to be as concrete as possible.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Use positive formulations for your goal.</li></ol>

Rules of the game for the successful small ego

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">When your goals are in harmony with your fixed star, it is easier to overcome problems because of your inner attitude.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">What surrounds you shapes you.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">The moment you let go things will come to you. The holistic view helps us to gain this mental state. Then signs and wonders will happen.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Practice gratitude daily!</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Open yourself for positive energies.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">When we give our true self room to be, we will be well.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Stop watching the news. Important information will reach you either way.</li></ul>

Practice the holistic view

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Most of our problems relate to our subjective reality.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Everytime you have a problem where you can't change the outside world, all you can change is your inner attitude. If you can do that, the problem is solved.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Love yourself!</li><li class="ql-align-justify">No matter how, if you come to terms with yourself, the so called problem that keeps coming up will transform.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">True love creates happiness.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">When we feel good spiritually, the small ego will feel good also.</li></ul>

Forgive yourself and others

When you are stressed, mad or frustrated, take three minutes and concentrate on the things you are grateful for. Your attitude will change immediately. You will relax, your breathing will slow down and after three minutes you will be able to act rationally.

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Unconditional love is not hormonal. The connection between brain and heart will lead to unconditional love. It is an act of the spirit. Inner peace begins inside us. Focusing on your fixed star can help with this process.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">I can only rise above myself when I accept where I stand today. The more I accept my imperfections, the weaker they will become.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">When you look inward you will gain more understanding about the outward.</li></ul>

Unconditional Love

Contemplate things. You will gain new insights into the matter. And to the problems that remain you say: "Thank you for letting me know that I am not able to handle this situation - but I accept it!"

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Tranquility comes from the inside when you practice mindfulness.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Devote yourself to the here and now through relaxed contemplation.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Instead of resisting or fighting or trying to get rid of baser thoughts, we should pair them with higher thoughts.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Practice compassion instead of pity!</li><li class="ql-align-justify">The faster we understand what a certain situation has to teach us, the faster we can leave it in the past.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">When we think about others, they will receive our energies.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Love heals!</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Everything is one. Matter is just an illusion.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Smiling (Lächeltraining) will strengthen your immune system.</li></ul>

Send Positive Energy

The higher entities once contemplated where to hide "The True" from people.They went through many different places, until they had an idea where to hide "the most essential" from humans: INSIDE OF THEM!Only those who look inwards can find it.

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">When it is hard for us to forgive someone, we need to imagine it was the last day of their life.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Law of Resonance: Who learns to regularly radiate as much positive energy as possible will soon receive similar energy.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">We always receive the world's echo to our vibrations. The more we are in harmony with our true self, the more positive happenstances will naturally occur.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Lifting the corners of your mouth will produce endorphins.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Make peace of mind a life goal!</li></ul>

Holistic World View

Unconditional love does not derive from normal feelings. It is not the result of neuronal and hormonal interaction. Unconditional love comes from the heart. It is an act of the conscious mind. It is our soul that radiates and receives this kind of love.Receiving unconditional love can heal your soul. Sending unconditional love can heal the recipient. Radiating this love of the soul can heal the world.

What you wish upon others, will reflect back upon you.The world is your echo, your mirror.By wishing positive things upon others, you strengthen your own system and you feel better.

Find your fixed star - How to identify your life goals and achieve them.

In diesem bisher unveröffentlichten Buch-Seminar lädt die Bestsellerautorin und Trainerin ihre Leser posthum zu einer spannenden Selbst-Inventur ein: Was wollen wir in unserem Leben erreichen? Welche Ziele haben wir? Und was sind die persönlichen Fixsterne, die alle anderen Ziele überstrahlen und dem Leben Tiefe verleihen? Vera F. Birkenbihl erklärt anschaulich und leicht verständlich, wie man seine eigenen Lebensziele erkennt, welche Hürden auf dem Weg dorthin möglicherweise überwunden werden müssen und wie man die dafür nötige Kraft findet. Ein Buch voller wertvoller Denkanstöße über das, was man im Leben wirklich erreichen möchte!

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Motivation & Inspiration

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Crying does not indicate that you are weak. Since birth, it has always been a sign that you are alive.

Anyone can love a rose but it takes a lot to love a leaf. It's ordinary to love the beautiful, but beautiful to love the ordinary.

People provoke your unhealed versions and hurt your wounded parts ad infinitum, and when your warrior side comes out to shield, they suddenly become victims.

Healing is hard when your inner child wants love, your teenage self wants revenge, and your current self wants peace.

The fountain of content must spring up in the mind, and he who hath so little knowledge of human disposition will waste his life in fruitless efforts and multiply the grief he proposes to remove.

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Mindfulness

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Health

Quotes That Hit Deep

Have you ever wonder if everything that happens to you now and in the past are just a dream? Is it good for you? that all of your mistake is nothing but a phenomena that happened inside your brain, or it makes you scare and left anxious to think that you are sleeping all time and don't know what's with the waking world? Lets take a look with one of the notable anecdote in philosophy, Zhuangzi and the Butterfly.

The Questions

It started when Zhuangzi a great Daoist thinker fell asleep and dreamed that he was a butterfly. When he woke up, he did not know whether he really was a man who had dreamed he was a butterfly or whether he was a butterfly now dreaming he was a man.

Zhuangzi And The Butterfly

There is nothing wrong with doubting the reality and think the possibility of this hypothetical scenario to happen. In skepticism lens this is called "Global Skepticism".

Global Skepticism

They are doing doubt to everything, Global Skeptics claims that we cannot know whether our most fundamental belief are true or not. This idea rejects the possibility of knowledge in general. The introduction question is a kind of global doubt that leads to the one of the most famous argument of global skepticism called <a href="https://deepstash.com/idea/340702/the-dreaming-hypothesis">"The Dreaming Argument".</a>

Dreaming

Premise 1: We cannot always tell when we are dreaming. Premise 2: If we cannot tell, we cannot be certain that we are not dreaming right now.Premise 3: If we cannot be certain that we are not dreaming right now, then we cannot know anything about the external world.Conclusion: We cannot know anything about the external world.

The Hypothetical Syllogism of Dreaming Argument

This is a kind Global Skepticism because it presents the impossibility to have knowledge (We cannot know anything about the external world). The challenges in this argument can be found in all of its premises and to make the whole argument collapse, one must take the challenge to rule out those claims.

Philosophy of Zhuangzi a famous daoist and the global skepticism argument

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History

Zhuangzi and the Global Skepticism 

Triggers, those sudden and intense emotional reactions, are an inevitable part of the human experience. While they can vary widely from person to person.

Understanding

1. Past Experiences2. Unmet Needs 3. Conditioning and Associations4. Stress and Fatigue

Why Do Triggers Occur?

- Triggers often stem from unresolved issues or traumatic experiences in our past. Unprocessed emotions associated with these events can resurface when triggered by similar situations or stimuli.

1. Past Experiences

- Unmet emotional needs can amplify sensitivity, making individuals more prone to being triggered. Recognizing and addressing these needs is a key step in minimizing the impact of triggers.

2. Unmet Needs

- Certain cues or environments become associated with specific emotions over time. Triggers can occur when encountering these familiar elements, as the brain automatically recalls the associated emotional response

3. Conditioning and Associations

- High levels of stress or exhaustion can lower emotional resilience, making individuals more susceptible to triggers. Self-care practices play a crucial role in reducing vulnerability.

4. Stress and Fatigue

1. Self-Awareness2. Mindfulness Practices3. Seek Professional Support4. Healthy Coping Mechanisms5. Set Boundaries6. Build Resilience

How to Navigate Triggers

- Recognizing personal triggers is the first step. Reflect on past experiences and identify patterns in emotional reactions. Increased self-awareness empowers individuals to anticipate and manage triggers.

1. Self-Awareness

- Cultivating mindfulness through practices such as meditation and deep breathing helps create a mental space to observe triggers without immediate emotional reactions. Mindfulness fosters a sense of control and presence.

2. Mindfulness Practices

- Therapy provides a safe and supportive environment to explore and process triggers. A mental health professional can offer guidance and coping strategies tailored to individual experiences.

3. Seek Professional Support

- Replace unhealthy coping mechanisms with healthier alternatives. Engaging in activities like exercise, journaling, or connecting with supportive friends can redirect focus and alleviate emotional distress.

4. Healthy Coping Mechanisms

- Establishing clear boundaries in relationships and environments can reduce the likelihood of encountering triggering situations. Communicate needs openly to create a supportive network.

5. Set Boundaries

- Strengthen emotional resilience through practices that enhance overall well-being. Adequate sleep, regular exercise, and a balanced diet contribute to a more resilient mindset.

6. Build Resilience

Understanding why triggers occur and learning how to manage them is crucial for emotional well-being.

Psychology of Triggers

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