Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner

• Seeking validation makes you seem desperate• You don’t need to prove your worth, just be• Value your own attention over others'

1. Stop Trying to Impress Anyone

• True presence starts when you stop chasing reactions• Don’t over-laugh or over-explain yourself• Be confident in your silence and stillness

2. Radiate Real Presence

• Scarcity increases your value• Don’t be the first to text or react• Let people wonder what’s on your mind

3. Be Selectively Unavailable

• Pause before speaking or replying• Move like someone with bigger priorities• Make others feel lucky to have your time

4. Master the Power of Delay

Walk like you have three men walking behind you.

• Good posture speaks louder than words• Don’t fidget, stay smooth and still• Act grounded, not arrogant

5. Own the Room Like You Designed It

• Shoulders open, chin up, claim your space• Walk slowly, breathe calmly• Look like you belong anywhere

6. Use Body Language to Signal Strength

• Wake up early and stay consistent• Focus on your craft, not drama• Read, train, and improve daily

7. Build Quiet Discipline

• Don’t brag, let your energy reveal your discipline• Calm people are built, not born• Self-control leads to quiet respect

8. Let Your Habits Speak for You

• Stop trying to control others, control yourself• Be unbothered, unfazed, and clear-headed• People will feel your strength without knowing why

9. Be Unshakable in Who You Are

I’d rather be respected than liked.

• Focus on becoming secure, grounded, and focused• Some will admire you, some will fear you, and that’s okay• You don’t need permission to be powerful

10. Don’t Aim to Be Liked, Be Respected

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They’ll Doubt Themselves Just Looking at You

So, right now, you’re not the guy people quietly watch as he walks by.
You’re not the guy who shifts the energy just by being there.
You’re not the guy who’s already on her mind before you say a word.
But you could be.
And you will be — if you get this right.
This video isn’t about pretending to be cool. It’s about becoming the kind of person who radiates so much calm, confidence, and self-respect… that people around you start questioning themselves.
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This isn’t about luck or playing a role — it’s about building yourself into someone whose self-respect, confidence, and natural charisma speak louder than words. It all comes down to discipline, a strong mindset, and real self-awareness. It’s how you become the kind of guy people notice without trying, the one girls feel drawn to before you even say a word. This isn’t for show — it’s about power that comes from within.
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Also, a quick note: I always share my honest thoughts in my videos. They might not be the most scientifically accurate or universally correct, but I do my best to assess everything logically and objectively. For me, they feel true, and maybe some of you will resonate with them too.

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What’s up! On this channel, I dive into topics that are interesting and relatable to most of us. I share my thoughts and reflections on these subjects, along with things that have helped me. Hopefully, you’ll find something that resonates with you and helps improve your own journey)

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Be So Cool They Doubt Themselves

The most important thing in communication is hearing what isn’t said

Micromessages are tiny, often unconscious signals we send through body language, tone, and word choice. These subtle cues can make people feel valued or dismissed. Great leaders become aware of their micromessages and use them to uplift, not alienate.

1. Micromessages: Small Cues, Big Impact

Prejudice is a burden that confuses the past, threatens the future, and renders the present inaccessible

Microinequities are negative micromessages like constantly interrupting someone, avoiding eye contact, or ignoring ideas.These small behaviors stack up and quietly discourage others, especially those in underrepresented groups.

2. MicroInequities: The Silent Killer of Morale

Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless

Just like microinequities tear down, microadvantages build people up. A simple nod, listening intently, or giving credit publicly can empower your team. These behaviors create a positive feedback loop of trust and motivation.

3. MicroAdvantages: Fuel for Confidence

Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate

Young highlights that most micromessages stem from unconscious bias. Leaders must actively reflect on their behavior and assumptions, and seek feedback from others to identify hidden patterns.

4. Unconscious Bias: Check Yourself First

Diversity is being invited to the party inclusion is being asked to dance

An inclusive leader doesn’t just listen they ensure every voice gets space. Simple changes like rotating who speaks first or inviting quiet team members into the conversation can shift the entire dynamic.

5. Inclusive Communication: Everyone Feels Heard

Repetition creates reputation

People don’t judge you by one interaction. They form opinions over time through patterns. If you consistently send negative micromessages, no big speech will fix the damage. Consistency in respect and attention is key.

6. Patterns Over Moments: It’s About Consistency

Feedback is the breakfast of champions

Creating a culture where people feel safe to point out micromessages leads to stronger teams. Feedback should go both ways. Leaders must invite honest input and model how to receive it gracefully.

7. Feedback Loop: Encourage Open Dialogue

What you do has far greater impact than what you say

Leaders set the tone. If you show up distracted, disengaged, or dismissive, your team will mirror it. Be present. Be intentional. Your behavior speaks louder than any mission statement.

8. Lead by Example: Your Cues Matter Most

We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit

We all have default habits in communication. But once you become aware of your micromessages, you can start rewiring them. Small tweaks like giving affirming nods or letting others finish create real change.

9. Break the Habit: Awareness Leads to Change

People may forget what you said, but they’ll never forget how you made them feel

Leadership isn’t just about big decisions. It’s built moment by moment in how you treat others. Micromessages are a daily tool. Use them to lead with empathy, awareness, and intention.

10. Everyday Leadership: It’s In the Little Things

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Micromessaging: Why Great Leadership is Beyond Words

Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life’s coming attractions.

<ul><li>What you think about the most, you attract into your life</li><li>Positive thoughts bring good things, negative thoughts bring bad things</li><li>Your mind is like a magnet, so focus on what you want, not what you don’t want</li></ul>

1. The Law of Attraction

<ul><li>Everything starts with a thought before it becomes real</li><li>Your current life is shaped by your past thinking</li><li>If you want to change your life, change your thoughts</li></ul>

2. Thoughts Become Things

<ul><li>Ask clearly for what you want</li><li>Believe like you already have it</li><li>Receive it with gratitude and joy, as if it’s already yours</li></ul>

3. Ask, Believe, Receive

<ul><li>Picture your goals in your mind every day</li><li>Imagine how it feels to already have what you want</li><li>Visualization sends strong signals to the universe</li></ul>

4. Power of Visualization

<ul><li>Be thankful for what you already have</li><li>Gratitude attracts more things to be thankful for</li><li>Start your day by listing things you're grateful for</li></ul>

5. Gratitude is Powerful

<ul><li>Your emotions are a signal of what you’re attracting</li><li>Feeling happy attracts more happiness</li><li>Stay in a good mood to bring more good into your life</li></ul>

6. Feel Good to Attract Good

<ul><li>You are the creator of your own reality</li><li>Don’t blame others, your life is your responsibility</li><li>You have the power to choose your thoughts and feelings</li></ul>

7. You Control Your Life

<ul><li>Think rich to become rich</li><li>Focus on abundance, not on lack or debt</li><li>Successful people use the law of attraction naturally</li></ul>

8. Wealth and Success

<ul><li>Positive thinking can improve your health</li><li>Loving yourself attracts better relationships</li><li>Focus on what you want in a relationship, not on what’s missing</li></ul>

9. Health and Relationships

<ul><li>The present moment is where your power is</li><li>Don’t worry about the past or future, focus on now</li><li>Acting like you already have what you want brings it faster</li></ul>

10. Live in the Present

The tenth-anniversary edition of the book that changed lives in profound ways, now with a new foreword and afterword. In 2006, a groundbreaking feature-length film revealed the great mystery of the universe—The Secret—and, later that year, Rhonda Byrne followed with a book that became a worldwide bestseller. Fragments of a Great Secret have been found in the oral traditions, in literature, in religions and philosophies throughout the centuries. For the first time, all the pieces of The Secret come together in an incredible revelation that will be life-transforming for all who experience it. In this book, you’ll learn how to use The Secret in every aspect of your life—money, health, relationships, happiness, and in every interaction you have in the world. You’ll begin to understand the hidden, untapped power that’s within you, and this revelation can bring joy to every aspect of your life. The Secret contains wisdom from modern-day teachers—men and women who have used it to achieve health, wealth, and happiness. By applying the knowledge of The Secret, they bring to light compelling stories of eradicating disease, acquiring massive wealth, overcoming obstacles, and achieving what many would regard as impossible.

Rhonda Byrne is an Australian television writer and producer, best known for her New Thought works, The Secret—a book and a film by the same name. By the Spring of 2007 the book had sold almost 4 million copies, and the DVD had sold more than 2 million copies. She has also been a producer for Sensing Murder. According to an article published by Australia's Herald Sun, Byrne has also worked on the Australian TV series World's Greatest Commercials and Marry Me. In 2007, Byrne was listed among Time Magazine's list of 100 people who shape the world.

Rhonda Byrne

The Secret

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">People think they need to feel confident first, but that’s backward.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Confidence grows the more you do things that scare you.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Feel the fear, take action anyway.</li></ul>

Confidence Comes From Action, Not Feelings

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Fear doesn’t fully disappear, even for successful people.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">The real goal is learning to act with fear, not against it.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Fear is a normal part of growth.</li></ul>

Waiting for Fear to Go Away is a Trap

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Your mind throws negative thoughts all the time.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">You don’t have to believe everything you think.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Treat thoughts like clouds passing by, not orders you must follow.</li></ul>

Thoughts Are Just Thoughts, Not Facts

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Avoiding hard things might feel safe short-term.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">But it builds regret, frustration, and a smaller life.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Facing discomfort is the only way forward.</li></ul>

Avoidance Kills Growth

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You Can Train Your Mindset Like a Muscle

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Confidence grows when you act based on your values, not your moods.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">What matters most to you should guide your actions.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Comfort zones shrink your potential.</li></ul>

Focus on What Matters, Not What’s Comfortable

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Mindfulness helps you stay calm when your brain screams, “Run!”</li><li class="ql-align-justify">It’s not about forcing yourself to relax, but noticing feelings without fighting them.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">You can still act, even if anxiety is present.</li></ul>

Use Mindfulness to Manage Anxiety

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">No one succeeds without messing up.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Each mistake teaches you something if you pay attention.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Failing forward builds real confidence faster than anything else.</li></ul>

Success is Built on Failures

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Confidence comes after the action, not before.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">You don’t need to “feel like it” — just start.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Small actions lead to bigger courage over time.</li></ul>

Commit to Action, Even If You Don’t Feel Ready

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Confidence isn’t a personality trait — it’s a practiced skill.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Anyone can build it, no matter where they start.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">The more you train, the stronger it gets.</li></ul>

Confidence = Skill, Not Gift

Drawing on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and mindfulness practices, this guide offers breakthrough insights and simple techniques for developing deep-seated, long-lasting confidence Too many of us miss out on opportunities in life because we lack self-confidence. Whether it’s public speaking, taking on a leadership role, or asking someone for a date, there are situations in which we just don't feel equipped to handle the challenges we face.  Russ Harris offers a surprising solution to low self-confidence, shyness, and insecurity: Rather than trying to “get over” our fears, he says, the secret is to form a new and wiser relationship with them. Paradoxically, it’s only when we stop struggling against our fearfulness that we begin to find lasting freedom from it.  Drawing on the techniques of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), a cutting-edge form of cognitive-behavioral therapy, The Confidence Gap explains how to:   • Free yourself from common misconceptions about what confidence is and how to build it  • Transform your relationship with fear and anxiety  • Clarify your core values and use them as your inspiration and motivation  • Use mindfulness to effectively handle negative thoughts and feelings.   “This book could save you years of psychological struggle, yank you out of negative emotional patterns, and help propel you to a much happier, more productive life.” —Martha Beck, author and Oprah Winfrey’s life coach

Russ Harris

The Confidence Gap

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">We see so much news, videos, and posts every day it’s hard to know what’s true</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Social media and online ads often show us what they want not what’s real</li><li class="ql-align-justify">To survive today we must learn to think clearly and ask good questions</li></ul>

1. Too Much Information Everywhere

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Computers and machines are doing more work than ever</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Many jobs might disappear especially ones that repeat the same tasks</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Creative thinking emotions and teamwork will matter more in the future</li></ul>

2. Robots and AI Taking Over Jobs

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Apps and websites collect data about what we like buy and do</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Sometimes technology can predict what we want better than we can</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Learning about privacy and how tech works is really important now</li></ul>

3. Big Data Knows You Well

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Big problems like global warming and viruses affect everyone not just one country</li><li class="ql-align-justify">When countries only care about themselves it makes these problems worse</li><li class="ql-align-justify">We all live on the same planet working together is the only way to solve big issues</li></ul>

4. Countries or the Whole World

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Old religious stories often don’t match with modern science</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Many people today look for meaning in personal growth or helping others</li><li class="ql-align-justify">What matters is not believing blindly but living with kindness and honesty</li></ul>

5. What About Religion Today

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Fake news spreads quickly especially online because it makes people emotional</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Social media earns money by keeping people hooked even with wrong information</li><li class="ql-align-justify">We need to stop think and check facts before believing or sharing</li></ul>

6. Lies Spread Faster Than Truth

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Freedom and human rights are not guaranteed they can be lost</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Some governments use tech to spy on and control their people</li><li class="ql-align-justify">It’s up to us to stand up for fairness freedom and honesty in society</li></ul>

7. Is Democracy in Danger

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Knowing facts isn’t enough we need to learn how to keep learning</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Jobs will keep changing so learning new skills throughout life is a must</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Being creative calm and open minded will help us face the future</li></ul>

8. Schools Must Teach Differently

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Technology can’t answer life’s big questions like Why am I here</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Many people try to find meaning in family friends work or helping others</li><li class="ql-align-justify">The best meaning often comes from love kindness and making a difference</li></ul>

9. What’s the Meaning of Life Now

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">We have the power to make the future good or bad depending on what we choose now</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Working together as one human family is the only way forward</li><li class="ql-align-justify">What we do today will decide how life will be for future generations</li></ul>

10. Our Choices Shape the Future

How to understand the big challenges of today’s world and prepare for the future

#1 NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • In Sapiens, he explored our past. In Homo Deus, he looked to our future. Now, one of the most innovative thinkers on the planet turns to the present to make sense of today’s most pressing issues. “Fascinating . . . a crucial global conversation about how to take on the problems of the twenty-first century.”—Bill Gates, The New York Times Book Review NAMED ONE OF THE BEST BOOKS OF THE YEAR BY FINANCIAL TIMES AND PAMELA PAUL, KQED How do computers and robots change the meaning of being human? How do we deal with the epidemic of fake news? Are nations and religions still relevant? What should we teach our children? Yuval Noah Harari’s 21 Lessons for the 21st Century is a probing and visionary investigation into today’s most urgent issues as we move into the uncharted territory of the future. As technology advances faster than our understanding of it, hacking becomes a tactic of war, and the world feels more polarized than ever, Harari addresses the challenge of navigating life in the face of constant and disorienting change and raises the important questions we need to ask ourselves in order to survive. In twenty-one accessible chapters that are both provocative and profound, Harari builds on the ideas explored in his previous books, untangling political, technological, social, and existential issues and offering advice on how to prepare for a very different future from the world we now live in: How can we retain freedom of choice when Big Data is watching us? What will the future workforce look like, and how should we ready ourselves for it? How should we deal with the threat of terrorism? Why is liberal democracy in crisis? Harari’s unique ability to make sense of where we have come from and where we are going has captured the imaginations of millions of readers. Here he invites us to consider values, meaning, and personal engagement in a world full of noise and uncertainty. When we are deluged with irrelevant information, clarity is power. Presenting complex contemporary challenges clearly and accessibly, 21 Lessons for the 21st Century is essential reading. “If there were such a thing as a required instruction manual for politicians and thought leaders, Israeli historian Yuval Noah Harari’s 21 Lessons for the 21st Century would deserve serious consideration. In this collection of provocative essays, Harari . . . tackles a daunting array of issues, endeavoring to answer a persistent question: ‘What is happening in the world today, and what is the deep meaning of these events?’”—BookPage (top pick)

Yuval Noah Harari is an Israeli public intellectual, historian and professor in the Department of History at the Hebrew University of Jerusalem. He is the author of the popular science bestsellers Sapiens: A Brief History of Humankind, Homo Deus: A Brief History of Tomorrow, and 21 Lessons for the 21st Century.

Yuval Noah Harari

21 Lessons for the 21st Century

You can’t wait for inspiration. You have to go after it with a club.

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">The title comes from her brother’s childhood story. Write bird by bird.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Big projects feel scary, but small steps make them doable.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Focus on writing one small piece at a time.</li></ul>

1. Start Small — “Bird by Bird”

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Your first draft doesn’t need to be good. It just needs to exist.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Don’t aim for perfection right away.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Messy writing is how you find the good parts later.</li></ul>

2. First Drafts Are Supposed to Be Messy

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Writing is like exercise. The more you do it, the better you get.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Even if you don’t feel like it, show up.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Consistency is the real secret to finishing anything.</li></ul>

3. Show Up Every Day

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Everyone has an inner critic that says, This is bad.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Don’t listen. Write anyway.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">You can always fix it later, but you can’t fix what doesn’t exist.</li></ul>

4. Quiet the Negative Voices

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Focus on small, real details from your life or imagination.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Good writing isn’t about sounding fancy. It’s about honesty.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">And if you ever feel stuck for ideas, I’ve created <a href="https://anupchouhan.gumroad.com/l/50Game-ChangingChatGPTPromptsforWriters">50 powerful ChatGPT prompts</a> to help you spark those first words and keep the ideas flowing.</li></ul>

5. Write What You See

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Don’t copy other writers. Your voice matters.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Writing how you speak makes your work stronger.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">The more you write, the more your voice develops.</li></ul>

6. Find Your Own Voice

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Trying to be perfect will stop you before you start.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Let go of needing to get it right.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Imperfect writing is how you reach great writing.</li></ul>

7. Tackle Perfectionism

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Don’t worry about what others will think.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Write what you need to write.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">You can shape it for readers later, but start with your heart.</li></ul>

8. Write for Yourself First

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">You don’t have to know exactly where you’re going.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">The story or idea will reveal itself as you write.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Take it one sentence at a time.</li></ul>

9. Trust the Process

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Fame or money shouldn’t be the goal.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Writing itself is what brings meaning and growth.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">If you’re writing, you’re already winning.</li></ul>

10. Success Is the Writing, Not Fame

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Break free from writer’s block and start writing today

‘Thirty years ago my older brother, who was ten years old at the time, was trying to get a report on birds written that he’d had three months to write. It was due the next day. We were out at our family cabin in Bolinas, and he was at the kitchen table close to tears, surrounded by binder paper and pencils and unopened books on birds, immobilized by the hugeness of the task ahead. Then my father sat down beside him, put his arm around my brother’s shoulder, and said, “Bird by bird, buddy. Just take it bird by bird.”’ Here, for the first time, is a local edition of the bible of writing guides — a wry, honest, down-to-earth book that has never stopped selling since it was first published in the United States in the 1990s. In Bird by Bird, Anne Lamott, a bestelling novelist and memoirist, distils what she’s learned over years of trial and error. Beautifully written, wise, and immensely helpful, this is the book for serious writers and writers-to-be.

Anne Lamott is an accomplished writer whose work has resonated with readers around the world. Anne Lamott has published several books that explore a range of topics, from fiction to nonfiction, and has received critical acclaim for the ability to weave compelling narratives. Anne Lamott's writing style is known for its depth and authenticity, and has earned quite a loyal following of readers.

Anne Lamott

Bird by Bird

• The world keeps changing, so we need to keep updating our thinking• Smart people don’t always have the right answers• Being open to change helps you grow

1. Rethinking is a Superpower

• Many people hold on to their old beliefs just to feel smart• It’s okay to say “I was wrong”• Real learning begins when you let go of being too sure

2. Don’t Act Like a Know-It-All

• Test your ideas like scientists do• Look for proof, not just what feels right• Be ready to change your mind when new facts come

3. Be Like a Scientist

• Don’t act like a preacher trying to prove you're always right• Don’t attack others just to win an argument• Don’t say things just to make people like you

4. Don’t Preach, Fight, or Fake

• Being wrong means you’re learning something new• Don’t feel bad—feel proud when you learn• People respect those who admit mistakes

5. It's Good to Be Wrong

• Ask gentle questions instead of forcing your opinion• Find something you both agree on• Let people come to their own decision

6. How to Help Others Rethink

• Make it okay to ask questions and share new ideas• Leaders and teachers should say “I don’t know” sometimes• Reward people for learning, not just for being right

7. Build a Rethinking Environment

• Your thoughts can change, and that’s normal• You’re not weak if you change your mind• Let go of bad ideas without feeling like you're losing yourself

8. You Are Not Your Ideas

• Talk things out with an open mind• Listen more, assume less• Don’t try to win—try to understand

9. Rethink in Friendships and Relationships

• Spend time with people who challenge your thinking• Ask yourself, “What if I’m wrong?” often• Keep learning new things your whole life

10. Stay a Lifelong Learner

#1 New York Times Bestseller “THIS. This is the right book for right now. Yes, learning requires focus. But, unlearning and relearning requires much more—it requires choosing courage over comfort. In Think Again, Adam Grant weaves together research and storytelling to help us build the intellectual and emotional muscle we need to stay curious enough about the world to actually change it. I’ve never felt so hopeful about what I don’t know.” —Brené Brown, Ph.D., #1 New York Times bestselling author of Dare to Lead The bestselling author of Give and Take and Originals examines the critical art of rethinking: learning to question your opinions and open other people's minds, which can position you for excellence at work and wisdom in life Intelligence is usually seen as the ability to think and learn, but in a rapidly changing world, there's another set of cognitive skills that might matter more: the ability to rethink and unlearn. In our daily lives, too many of us favor the comfort of conviction over the discomfort of doubt. We listen to opinions that make us feel good, instead of ideas that make us think hard. We see disagreement as a threat to our egos, rather than an opportunity to learn. We surround ourselves with people who agree with our conclusions, when we should be gravitating toward those who challenge our thought process. The result is that our beliefs get brittle long before our bones. We think too much like preachers defending our sacred beliefs, prosecutors proving the other side wrong, and politicians campaigning for approval--and too little like scientists searching for truth. Intelligence is no cure, and it can even be a curse: being good at thinking can make us worse at rethinking. The brighter we are, the blinder to our own limitations we can become. Organizational psychologist Adam Grant is an expert on opening other people's minds--and our own. As Wharton's top-rated professor and the bestselling author of Originals and Give and Take, he makes it one of his guiding principles to argue like he's right but listen like he's wrong. With bold ideas and rigorous evidence, he investigates how we can embrace the joy of being wrong, bring nuance to charged conversations, and build schools, workplaces, and communities of lifelong learners. You'll learn how an international debate champion wins arguments, a Black musician persuades white supremacists to abandon hate, a vaccine whisperer convinces concerned parents to immunize their children, and Adam has coaxed Yankees fans to root for the Red Sox. Think Again reveals that we don't have to believe everything we think or internalize everything we feel. It's an invitation to let go of views that are no longer serving us well and prize mental flexibility over foolish consistency. If knowledge is power, knowing what we don't know is wisdom.

Adam Grant is an accomplished writer whose work has resonated with readers around the world. Adam Grant has published several books that explore a range of topics, from fiction to nonfiction, and has received critical acclaim for the ability to weave compelling narratives. Adam Grant's writing style is known for its depth and authenticity, and has earned quite a loyal following of readers.

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